When You Try to do what is right in this old wicked world, something always happens to see if you really want to do it. The Hon. Elijah Muhammad Spring 1960
Dr.Livingston Muhammad
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Friday, June 5, 2009
Love & Sex
Peace and Blessings
This is a question that came to me via email, therefore I will answer it here.
Q: How can I tell my husband that I am not enjoying sex with him? I have tried to share with him some of the things I light, but he only does what makes him feel good. signed Dissatisfied
Ans: Dissatisfied, this is a very touchy subject. However, it you want to maintain your marriage and restore it to a happy state, then we Must go to work.
This is a question that came to me via email, therefore I will answer it here.
Q: How can I tell my husband that I am not enjoying sex with him? I have tried to share with him some of the things I light, but he only does what makes him feel good. signed Dissatisfied
Ans: Dissatisfied, this is a very touchy subject. However, it you want to maintain your marriage and restore it to a happy state, then we Must go to work.
- Don't tell him "I'm not enjoying sex with you", instead, tell him what you do like, and see if you can find a book that may say what you like and you may be able to share it via the book.
- No man wants to be compared to a past lover, husband, etc. therefore, be careful in your approach.
- Ask him if he enjoys himself, and would he like for you to do something different.
- Make noticeable sounds or gestures during sex when he does something you like, and not so much when you don't. (Remember he may not do each and everything you like all at one time, but this is a 'Work in Progress'.
Keep me posted on how this go and we will make sure get you and your husband on the track of hot, beautiful, blissful, sexual pleasure in no time.
Male/Female Relationships
Peace and Blessings
It is important in any and all relationships to understand your mate. We spend time understanding others communication styles, others behaviour, etc in order to communicate with them better. However, we spend so little time getting to know our mates and their likes and dislikes.
The Golden rule is "Do under to others, as you would have them to do unto you". We take this literally, but it is the principal that we show be looking at, i.e., you want people to be nice to you, listen to you, respect you, come to you with a good spirit, etc. That does not me that just because I like and want the crust cut from my bread that I should do that to my husband, because he may want the crust. I should listen to what he wants because I want him to listen to what I want.
When a person is important to you, you want them to be happy, therefore, you must listen.
It is important in any and all relationships to understand your mate. We spend time understanding others communication styles, others behaviour, etc in order to communicate with them better. However, we spend so little time getting to know our mates and their likes and dislikes.
The Golden rule is "Do under to others, as you would have them to do unto you". We take this literally, but it is the principal that we show be looking at, i.e., you want people to be nice to you, listen to you, respect you, come to you with a good spirit, etc. That does not me that just because I like and want the crust cut from my bread that I should do that to my husband, because he may want the crust. I should listen to what he wants because I want him to listen to what I want.
When a person is important to you, you want them to be happy, therefore, you must listen.
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